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Step 4 – Parenting with Intention

So far you have brainstormed different expectations that you have for your child and taken the time to understand why they are important to you. That inventory became three smaller lists which were ordered according to your child’s capabilities. Finally, you shared your work with your child gleaning helpful information [...]

September 30th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Step 4 – Parenting with Intention

Step 3 – Parenting with Intention

Now you have a categorized list of expectations and reasons for their importance. Step three is to have a structured review of your list with your child.  This is one of my favorite steps because you have the opportunity to learn from one another. Before you start your conversation here [...]

September 27th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Step 3 – Parenting with Intention

Step 2 – Parenting with Intention

Parenting with intention is showing determination to match your goals with your actions. In the first step you wrote a list of expectations that you have for your child and considered why it was important. Now you can start to prioritize. Parenting can appear overwhelming. As you review your list [...]

September 23rd, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Step 2 – Parenting with Intention

Step 1 – Parenting with Intention

As parents it's our job to raise our children to be productive members of society. We teach them respect, honor and perseverance. I would like you to embark on a journey with me to explore some steps to parent with intention.  It will only take a few minutes of your [...]

September 22nd, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Step 1 – Parenting with Intention

Bribery vs. Postive Reinforcement

What is the difference between a bribe and a reward? A bribe is generally described as a payment in return for a desired action. A reward is described as something of value that is given for an achievement. At first glance there isn’t much difference. One area that makes a [...]

September 20th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Bribery vs. Postive Reinforcement

Why use positive reinforcement?

Think back to a time when you were an adolescent and were experiencing a super-human mentality. This was a period where your decision making process included less experience.  Some studies argue that adults and adolescents use a different part of their brain when making choices. (The Computational Development of Reinforcement Learning during [...]

September 8th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Why use positive reinforcement?

Motivation 101

Motivation is an interesting topic. It is described as a reason why we act or behave in a specific way. It makes sense then why we search the web, talk to fellow parents, and read “how to” books in order to parent. We are on the lookout for how to [...]

September 6th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Motivation 101

Crazy Mornings

You wake up in the morning and its game on…time to get the kids ready for school. You stick your head in their rooms and lovingly tell them it is time to get up. You walk to the kitchen to start preparing breakfast, confident that your “talk” last night will [...]

September 3rd, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Crazy Mornings

Tips to get started

Talking with  families who are just starting out using a reward based program, like Vlinder, rejuvenates me.  I’m reminded of what it was like before I started and I can’t believe I was making so much work for myself.  Here are a couple of tips that I learned to get [...]

August 30th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Tips to get started