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Parenting with Intention

Parenting with intention means understanding your motivation and making decisions based on that understanding.

August 23rd, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Parenting with Intention

Smittie Boyz Go back to school

Success!  Today was the first day of school.  It was a pretty big day at the Smit house.  The twins are in third grade and their older brother is in fourth.  It seems like just yesterday they were chasing each other around in their “wheelie chairs”.  This morning I broke [...]

August 17th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Blogging, Childhood, School, Structure, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Smittie Boyz Go back to school

Utilizing Consequences to Modify Behavior

The concept of consequences are an important life lesson and an important tool in modifying behavior.  One of the lessons I’ve learned along the way is how important it is not to use things my children have earned through their hard work as ultimatums or punishments for poor behavior.  When [...]

August 11th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Utilizing Consequences to Modify Behavior

How I went from chaos to calm…

Is there a specific time of day that seems unmanageable? Even chaotic? I experienced that last year when my kids were getting ready for school. A typical morning in the Smit household featured three boys needing constant prompting to get out of bed. Once out of bed they needed reminding [...]

August 10th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Uncategorized|Comments Off on How I went from chaos to calm…

Modifying your morning behaviors

How?  How do you get your child to clean their room?  Eat their greens? Do their homework? The answer is you become an expert in your child’s motivators.  Clean your room or you can’t go to the movies.  Eat your greens or you can’t have dessert.  Do your homework or [...]

August 9th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Parenting, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Modifying your morning behaviors

Changes in Childhood

When I was a little girl I would put on my blue jeans and t-shirt, call my friend Rochelle, and ride the neighbor’s ponies from morning to night. We got in plenty of trouble riding on school lawns, moving barricades on private property, and galloping on city streets. When we [...]

August 7th, 2016|Categories: Childhood, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Changes in Childhood

Getting Vlinder out before school starts.

When I started creating Vlinder it was because I realized that my three boys needed more responsibility before getting ready for school. I couldn't imagine how I was going to make it fly.

August 6th, 2016|Categories: Behavior Management, Uncategorized|Comments Off on Getting Vlinder out before school starts.

Reward vs. Ultimatum

My first blog!  The process of creating Vlinder has been challenging and rewarding.  To me this is the signs of a good project. My favorite part has been brainstorming and creating different rewards for families.  I've enjoyed speaking with parents about what has worked for them.  Now I want to [...]

August 2nd, 2016|Categories: Blogging, Uncategorized|1 Comment